Many people who reject the notion of polyamory sometimes, even halfway into hearing the description, do so with the dismissive statement "It's all about sex", accompanied by a frown and disapproving look!!
However, to many of us it just doesn't make sense.
And if at any time we feel love or attraction towards someone else, we are forced to choose, often leaving a trail of wreckage, broken hearts and broken children behind.
are hard wired for multiple love and those of us living in polyamory are simply acknowledging that fact in our relationships.
You know I have said many times that I respect that everyone walks their own path, but as my path is constantly under fire I do feel the need to explain:
All I feel qualified to do is to tell you about the poly that is my truth.
And if this is the only article you have read about polyamory bear in mind it will not qualify you to say "oh yes, I know about polyamory "!! (I had a counsellor once who dismissed it as "that threesome thing" because she read an article about it in a magazine once).
We are still learning new skills as each new scenario presents itself, but I'm going to tell you about where we are at right now.
My house is made up of three people, my husband, myself and my son who is 24, partially verbal with autism. Both my boys are very loving, affectionate and loyal and I am lucky to have them.
One thing that makes my marriage different is how much access other people have to my husband.
All the big questions get answered in this blog:
" Don't you get jealous"
" What if he/ she falls in love with someone else and leaves you "
" How can you call yourself a Christian " etc.. All of these are answered in separate articles but the one fact that underpins all the answers is
IT'S ALL ABOUT LOVE!
Our love is so strong that we simply would never make a choice that hurts the other.
Both of us have been asked by a woman to " get rid of" the other but the answer is always no. The answer comes from whichever one of us was asked NOT the partner because we don't need to govern each other's friendships and relationships.
At the end of the day if you love someone you will always want to put what they need first, even if it means we have to sacrifice something that we perhaps want or need.
I read a lot of opinions in poly forums where people are advised to be true to themselves.
This is a very broad overview of the philosophy that is behind our poly life.